![]() This article isn’t written from the point of view of an alcoholic. It can be a reminder of simpler times, of fun we had as young people. Unfortunately it’s not really talked about much.įor many, alcohol is an escape from the responsibilities of adulthood and can be a fast track to connection with others. It’s the kind of drinking that can be easily hidden, all the while is silently chipping away from the inside. ![]() Think: saying “just one glass,” which turns into the whole bottle or more… It’s laughing at drunken mistakes, only to make them again and hope no one finds out. It is the commitment to drinking that steals the rest of the day away. This may be characterized by periods of sobriety, followed by periods of bingeing. Gray area drinking is characterized by pattern of use and abuse that is not quite at the level of alcohol dependency. My then-partner, as I have since learned, is a “ gray area drinker ,” a term coined by Jolene Park. You don’t have to be an alcoholic to realize booze is hurting your life. When this person left I could see the positive benefits on myself and all the other guys who were with us, as naturally we basically stopped drinking. One of the colleagues also drank a lot, so many of us joined him in the pub to pass time. For me it was a way of showing my support to stop drinking (not like it influenced him, but I thought it would.) Later when we separated, I ended up working with a group of people. I didn’t know how to support him but he said he needed it. When I was faced with his returning alcoholism, I knew this had to end. I remember I rarely drank for years, but while I was with my partner I drank more than during the entire previous decade. Then I consciously decided to not to drink to that extent. There was a period of my life during university when I partied and drank “hard.” But I realized how much I disliked myself when I was drunk. Everything we built together until then disappeared along with his sobriety. ![]() My partner rarely drank in the first three months of living together, until one night, he suddenly started it. I still don’t, as I never really encountered alcoholics, or at least I didn’t know they were one. He intentionally hurt me and himself when drunk and then didn’t remember it. It was a hard time to see the person I love falling apart again and again. In 2021 I found myself living with a person who I thought was my ideal partner, who then turned out to be an alcoholic. ![]()
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